Peter Oladele Fatomilola

Maintain relationships with people

It is childish and immature to pick offence at every provocation or perceived wrong and then start keeping grudges as a result.

Grow above it.

Someone did not invite you for their celebration (s), you pick offence with them.

Someone didn’t wish you happy birthday, you pick offence with the person

They didn’t like your facebook post, you pick offence.

They didn’t support you in a disagreement you had with someone, you pick offence with them.

They are junior and they have the audacity to talk or oppose your opinion. You pick offence with them.

They said NO to your request, you pick offence and malice starts.

You asked them for money, they said they didn’t have it, you pick offence with them.

You are even keeping a record of people who came around when you were grieved, so you can know who to pick offence with.


Everyone has battles you are not aware of. Those who you need help from are also looking for help. Not everything is Personal and intentional.

Not everyone hates you and never hate anyone.

Sometimes, people are just caught up with their own lives, struggles, human weaknesses and limitations.

Learn how to manage being disappointed by people and still be on talking terms with them. It will save you a lot of UNNECESSARY grudges and save you some Friendships you may need in future.

Grow above offences.

By osibanews

Eliel Otote A is an Actor and Filmmaker, with a bias for journalism. He was a freelance feature writer with the Nigerian Observer in the 80's in Benin City, he also presented programmes on both radio and television. Eliel is the Editor and Publisher of OSIBAnews Network Magazine, of which this blog is an affiliate.

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